Energy healing is very new to me. It still takes some sort of concerted effort to focus -- or unfocus? -- in order to feel and understand the benefits of crystal healing, reiki, smoke cleansing, even meditating. It’s hard to clear the mind and open the body to these experiences. But, I’ve found myself consistently being drawn to these sorts of settings.
In a very on-brand Galentine’s Day, the girls and I took a spiritual outing to my trusted crystal healer’s home, where we were schedule to participate in tarot and oracle readings from Cyn (@powerful_divine on IG) and aura cleanses from her friend and colleague, Dawn (@iam_mysticalmermaid on IG). That night was one of the most powerful, meaningful, and invigorating spiritual experiences of my journey thus far.
We arrived to Cyn’s house with wine and a cookie pie, and were met with assorted treats to share. The space was decorated beautifully with peace in mind -- a tapestry on the ground that reminded me of a mandala, spiritually calming music playing in the background, the smell of incense or sage, and a massage-style table lined with crystals. These healers had also laid out their crystal and jewelry products for us to browse, as well. Can I do this every weekend??
Our night began with a glass (or three) of wine, a laid back conversation about our zodiac signs, how cool crystals are, and the importance of protecting your energy. The feminine energy was IMMACULATE, very powerful and empowering.
I volunteered to go first for the aura cleanse. After an emotionally exhausting week, I felt I needed a little healing before being able to fully receive any messages from the universe during my reading thereafter.
Immediately, Dawn had this kind, nurturing vibe to her. She moves slowly and carefully and radiates warmth. I laid down on the table, covered with lots of selenite and other crystals around a shape where a body would go. Surrounded by calming and protecting crystals, Dawn told me a little bit about what she would be doing.
Your aura is the energy field that surrounds your body, three to four inches above the skin, she explained. Your aura has energetic points throughout it, especially as it relates to the seven chakras. As you tumble through life, you pick up “spiritual debris” from others’ and your own thoughts and experiences. Like washing your hair, it’s important to clear it out here and there to allow your own spiritual energy to flow freely and allow you to live your best life. An aura cleanse uses tools including crystals, the practitioner’s hands, smoke, and other forms of energy to clear away that spiritual debris.
The table was lined with black tourmaline/obsidian and selenite. Selenite is one of my favorite rocks, a powerful energy cleanser and charger, so much so that it is one of few stones that hardly needs to be charged, and in fact can charge other crystals. Dawn calls it “a natural cleanser, like spiritual soap.” Black tourmaline is a protective stone, and is also great at clearing blockages.
She asked about my water intake, I told her my body is 90% wine at the moment. She handed me a polished black tourmaline wand and a raw selenite wand to hold in each hand. For balance, she said. I instantly felt relaxed. (Side note: I later bought myself one of each and love it to help me regulate my emotions). She then placed different crystals, lots of selenite, down my body. A tumbled one on my third eye, a small wand on my throat, one over my heart, a large plate over my sternum, at my navel, a small wand across my pelvic-ovary area, small pieces on my knees and ankles…
She guided me through my breathing at first as she worked, deep breath in, deep breath out. I smelled some sort of smoke blend, and heard her blowing over it. I closed my eyes and fell into a very relaxed meditative state. Almost asleep. I felt warmth around my body at certain points -- maybe the transmutation of energy, maybe from the smoke blend. Maybe both? I felt her hands moving over me, and I felt her grab and lightly squeeze my ankles -- I’m not sure why, but it just felt right to me, too.
It was incredibly relaxing like an energetic massage, despite the fact that she hardly touched my physical body. We later spoke about how it works, and what she could tell me about my aura and blockages -- let me answer the questions you probably have as we go.
“It’s like a spiritual oil change. I use the selenite wand to cut any karmic cords attached to energetic points in your aura. Then I cleanse and perform a ‘spiritual surgery’ with a black obsidian tool sewing up the energetic hole and sending Reiki to be guided to wherever the healing needs to go.”
She explained to me that I had some attachments near my ovaries and sacral chakra -- either a result or a cause of codependency I’ve experienced in past relationships. She’s not the first person to tell me that. It definitely got me thinking. She spent some extra time there, she said, working to cut those cords.
But how do you know where to “cut?”
“When I close my eyes what I see are lines coming out of a person’s aura, almost like a firework. So depending on the color and energy I can sense if it’s a cord that’s not supposed to be there… when I tap in it’s like one of those static electricity balls that when you touch it the lightning goes to your hand… I can see where each current goes to and depending on the energy of that current I can determine if it needs to be worked on or not.”
When she finally whispered to me to let me know she was done, I have no idea how much time passed. I felt like I just woke up from the world’s most perfect nap. Recharged, lighter. She advised me to sit up slowly, and I felt a little light headed as I sat up.
Both of my girl friends felt the same way when they sat up. I asked Dawn why that is.
“People tend to feel lighter because I’m taking spiritual dark matter away from their energetic bodies. It allows for one’s energy to be lighter because the weight has been transmuted.”
To me, it felt like getting used to my new energetic flow. Like when you stand up too fast and your blood has to start flowing differently to adjust for gravity. It feels the same.
I highly recommend trying an aura cleanse. Generally, they are not too expensive, maybe $20-50 for 20 minutes. It is relaxing and an important part of your own energetic maintenance, so an aura cleanse is not a one-stitch-fix. It clears the path for YOU to heal YOURSELF. Dawn says to think of it like spiritual surgery. You still need to listen to the doctor’s recovery orders -- you are in charge of your own bodily maintenance, as are you in charge of your own spiritual maintenance. My only tip is to relax and be open to the experience, and know who you can trust to give you the real deal -- ask around if you don’t know and search IG.
“It’s your time to end the toxic cycles in your life” has come up in my readings and signs from the universe A LOT recently. It’s exciting, right? The idea of ending the same cycle or patterns that harm me over and over and over again. Full disclosure, they are mostly involved with my romantic life.
My most recent reading, on Valentine’s Day weekend, said the same thing. It said that the universe has been sending me signs -- which I’ve been receiving, gratefully -- but that I am choosing not to act accordingly. That’s the problem with free will, I suppose.
During that reading, I actually said aloud, “But I kind of want to learn this lesson the hard way.”
For the last 5 months, I’ve been receiving the same message in regards to my love life. I need to retreat in order to end the cycle. It’s not that I’m scared of being alone -- I’m not. Even as the extrovert I am, I enjoy being left alone to do weird crystal girl shit in my room. It’s that every time I try to be alone, I accidentally meet someone, find that I have a connection with them… and tell myself the same thing I always say: “Even if I’m not looking for anything, I won’t deny myself a connection with another human.”
There’s a lot of contradictions in my head. I feel like I’m grappling with what is supposed to happen (according to the messages I’ve been receiving) and what I WANT to do.
These cycles are addicting. High highs and low lows. The adrenaline rush of being fought for, fighting for someone else. But the thing about cycles is that they are cyclical -- you’ll just keep going around, passing the same landmarks, feeling the same emotions. There’s no onward and upward, no growth.
The universe sends us these messages whether we ask for them or not. They are often meant to protect us from learning painful lessons, the hard way, every time. Sometimes we are meant to learn the lesson once and grow from it, and other times we ignore the messages and willingly remain in the same cycle.
Even the most spiritual human is still just a person with free will. You can receive all the advice, messages, and foreshadowing from the universe… and still not be ready to receive it. These messages are not an end-all-be-all.
We still have to work to manifest the changes we want to see and the path that the universe has laid out for us. We still have to make a daily, intentional effort to be sure that our actions and perception align with the guidance we receive.
Some of these messages I am not ready to receive. Sometimes I’ll choose to heed the message, and other times I’ll choose to learn the lesson. That’s okay. I’m human. I’m learning. I’m healing.
Welcome to Finding Divine Feminine! I’m so glad you are here. It means that you are curious, and perhaps even ready to start your spiritual journey to awaken your Divine Feminine.
We’ll get back to that. Allow me the space to share my journey so far.
I’m calling this stage in my spirituality “day one,” though it’s not exactly tied to one specific day. Honestly, I’ve been interested in spells and potions and gems for as long as I can remember -- brewing up potions in my parent’s wooded back yard, drenching myself in crystal jewelry and picking up tumbled gems as they caught my eye. But recently, I’ve begun using and learning about different metaphysical practices. And, as many magical things do, it started with a toxic ex-boyfriend, a bottle of bubbly, and a chance encounter.
In the latter half of 2020, I was going through a really toxic relationship that caused me to lose myself -- something I had never really felt in all my years of life in this body. I had just started therapy to heal myself through the lens of different toxic patterns I found myself falling into in my relationships. I started taking an interest in health and fitness. For the first time in my life, I felt like I wanted to take care of ME -- not my career, not my family or friends, not my significant other. ME. Fast forward a few months, we almost broke up. I didn’t let him break up with me. That’s a whole other story. I really said “THIS is not the way we are going to go down,” as if I already intuitively knew.
Shortly after that big falling out, I attended a small women’s-only event with tarot card readers and “crystal dealers” as I like to call them. Besides the bottomless mimosas, what I remember most about that reading was this: that ending my relationship would lead to my spiritual awakening, and that I will soon be able to end a toxic cycle in my life so that I can eventually meet my soulmate who she said is “a king in the making, he is still healing, too.”
Walking away from that, I felt a strange mix of scared and empowered. Being alone during a global pandemic in a new city really scared me. I was doing everything I could to make that awful relationship work -- and I felt like I was failing. So, I decided to seek out some tools to manifest that reality.
That’s where I met one of my favorite “crystal dealers,” Cyn (@powerful_divine on Instagram). She guided me through her selection of gems. I settled on a blue apatite bracelet and tumbled selenite. I bought a rose quartz necklace from another vendor (@washkagems on Instagram).
That night, I had a killer headache between my eyes. I assumed it was from all the sugary drinks and day drinking. I fell asleep holding the selenite to my third eye. I knew nothing about how to use it, but felt a tingly sense of relief with the pressure of the cold stone between my eyes. The next day, I was talking to my closest friend about my failing relationship. He was sorry for trying to break up with me (lol) and wanted to see me -- suspiciously nice.
I was holding the selenite, rolling it in my fingers and trying to make a decision. The rose quartz around my neck heated up to the point where it was HOT. Like, almost too hot to the touch. I was blown away by that alone. Then, something amazing happened. My selenite just exploded into three pieces. I felt an immediate wave of sadness wash over me. Right away, I felt like I needed to say thank you and sorry to the crystal. My friend and I did some Googling and learned that some crystals will break when they’ve absorbed so much energy and need an extreme cleanse. It’s done its job. But it’s not necessarily “broken” to where it can no longer be used. It may mean that someone in your life needs to receive a piece of that crystal. I brought one piece to my friend who was on the phone, and another piece to my ex who I was talking about when it exploded. I told them both the story and the significance of it, and they appreciated it.
So naturally, in true Sagittarius “go big or go home” fashion, I contacted Cyn and bought a bunch more crystals.
My favorite forms of spiritualistic healing right now are therapy, crystals (carrying an intentional few on me at any time, crystal grids, fiddling with them when I’m anxious, baths, smoke blends, and candles. Just this week, I began learning to read my own tarot cards, practicing on myself and friends.
The theme here is that I’m learning how to listen to my intuition, harness/direct/repel energy, and heal myself and others through metaphysical tools. Each tool is a means to an end, a vehicle for energy, a symbol for: what I’m trying to do, how I’m trying to direct my energy, the outcome I want to manifest, or some affirmation I want to remind myself of. Crystals are a tool. Tarot and oracle cards are tools. Candles and smoke blends are tools. There are different tools for every job, and every individual is drawn to different tools.
You won’t like this, but there is no one answer. There is no one path to finding the divine feminine. Everyone’s journey will be different. We will share, practice, find what works and what doesn’t, bring back old things, create new ways of doing things.
This whole spirituality thing is about finding YOUR vessel for YOUR spirituality. Your spirituality will connect you to OUR world, OUR collective conscious, OUR ancestors. As my respected reiki lady, Dawn (@iam_mysticalmermaid on Instagram) told me:
“Just do whatever feels good to you. Who says you’re supposed to follow the rules?”
Thank you for tuning in during my “Day One.” I hope you’ll follow me as I continue to grow as a spiritualist. I hope my experience inspires you to try new things, to learn your own way of practicing and connecting with your spirituality. I’m not your teacher -- I’m your friend, walking this path with you.
Stay curious. Spread nothing but love. Protect your energy.